Lots of words get tossed around these days …gratitude …mindfulness …presence. And they’re all great things to include in your life. No doubt.
But as a concept, they can be slippery, and they definitely mean different things to different people.
I thought I’d share what I’m experimenting with lately in this regard — I’ve been offering my appreciation for work done, for admirable qualities someone shows, for some specific thing someone did, stuff like that.
Pretty basic, I know, but how often do you make the effort to give an authentic, substantive compliment?
Sure, it’s fun to receive them
ahem…hello, I’m listening…. But little did I know how rewarding it is to give compliments. I ran around after the Ten Minute Play Fest and told as many people as I could (I didn’t get to everyone, so don’t be mad if you didn’t hear from me!) what I enjoyed about their work, acting, writing, singing, whatever. It was a blast!
Yes, sometimes after an offer, people don’t respond how you’d hope, or at all *cue the crickets* and I won’t lie, that’s a bummer. But most people have been grateful and seem touched.
It’s ultimately a win-win
especially when they want to buy you a beer, too.
So when you feel kinda blah, think of something cool someone did and tell them what you think.
You may make their day, and yours.
And the next thing you know, you’ll constantly be on the lookout for good things and stealthily slipping in compliments during normal conversations with random people, and everyone’s feeling fine.
Kinda like a living, breathing “Like” button…but with sincerity and effort (beyond a click) that others will appreciate.
Try it. You might like it.