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Remember the Strikes!

Have you noticed that some days or months all you notice are the worst things? The bad things, the depressing things, the worrisome things?

Even when not a whole lot shifted, you can still wake up at 4am in a life-sucks funk.

And proceed to wear your funk glasses all day.

Which is not to be confused with funky, which is often a good thing unless we’re talking about sock smells.

So what do I do on those days of funk glasses other than slump in a chair near my non-cuddly dog and figure all the ways everyone’s life is better than mine whine softly into my daughter’s Snuggie?

I try to remember something good. Anything, big or miniscule, that happened recently and say to myself, Wendy, seeeeeee?

It may not be much, but here’s what I got for today:
Bowling3 strikes!! This was some freaky-weird personal best where the pins aligned and made my day.

In case you couldn’t tell, I am not a good bowler. I took bowling in high school one semester, and my scores decreased the more I bowled. I nose-dived from a mediocre bowling score to a most excellent golfer score. Too bad I was still at the bowling alley.

But that’s not important now. What’s important now is for me, the funk-glasses-wearer, to remember the strikes!

That is my advice to you if you’re wearing your funk glasses today. Remember the strikes!

Han or Luke? Pick a Stars Wars Man.

star warsI watched the original Star Wars movie this weekend with the Kid, who had forgotten she’d seen a special showing of it at the theater (so, is this how it is? are kids just going to continually forget all the cool things their parents do for them??).

I personally saw it 3 times when it first came out and I cut in a super long line like a total tweener weasel, too, and probably half a dozen times since then.

[I know, there are guys folks who've seen it 1000s of times and know the backstory of every stormtrooper killed and live alone over someone's garage. They can go write their own geeky analysis and have.]

Just like rereading a favorite book, when you revisit a movie after a few decades years you can be embarrassed learn about yourself.

The best example of this is which Stars Wars man do I prefer – the streetwise, rugged pilot Han Solo or the younger, naive farmer Luke Skywalker?
luke skywalker
When I saw these movies as a kid, it was Luke all the way. He was sweet and had that sort of Shaun Cassidy thing going on while Han was mysterious but possibly dangerous.

Then a few years later, Luke seemed ridiculously innocent, and it was the slick and cool Han, baby. He was dangerous (yay, bad boys!) and surprised them all by having a heart and swooping in for the big finish. Duh, no brainer.
han solo
And now?

I’d say Han would win for a fun roll in the hay, but as I write that, I’m not 100% sure on that one. He may not be the most *ahem* selfless… Plus, I doubt he’d be open to any heartfelt conversation about his feelings, assuming he knew them in the first place.

So, it must be Luke, right? Well, actually, he still has a very Gomer Pyle Goll-leeeeeee thing going on that he loses points on. Would you want a relationship with someone constantly whining Hey, but that’s not fair!

Where does this leave us? Well, I must be getting ancient older because the more intriguing man in Star Wars for me now is…..
obi wan
Obi Wan

No, I don’t have a grandpa thing. Maybe it’s his intuitive powers, his understanding of others, his knowing of himself and the Universe, his calm (or maybe we can jump ahead to the prequels and this really means Ewan McGregor who I’ve had a crush on since I watched his motorcyling around the world doc’s…).

Okay, maybe it’s just his accent. I’m a sucker for an accent.

Who would you take home?