Last fall I participated in an awesome book study group led by Bev Gaines, and the book we read was Shadow Dance: Liberating the Power & Creativity of Your Dark Side by David Richo.
Richo loaded this book with information and exercises, some of which were tricky to work through, but I really learned a lot from our group experience with the material.
One of the points that seems to have stuck for me was the idea that yes, we all have these “shadow” traits we repress to avoid getting slapped on a daily basis for various reasons, but we also have positive shadow traits.
These are “good” qualities that we don’t think we actually possess and probably worship admire in others. So, if you find someone’s skills or talents really appealing, you most likely have that quality untapped in yourself.
Need an example? I have always loved music, going to concerts and memorizing dumb songs dancing, but considered making music to be done by “those musical people.”
Now, when I feel such admiration I also hear David Richo in my head saying “a-HEM! Hello!”
Hence, my new ukulele lessons with the awesome Johnny Bregar. I’m not even tolerable great, but I’m trying…
And almost as important, John puts my lessons online in a blog post! How freaking brilliant is that?
Who knew a blog could be so useful?
It’s a revelation to me, that’s for dang sure but not likely to alter this useless blog.
Doncha wanna hear a very slow, death march version of “Ain’t She Sweet?”










I love the insights in this post, Wendy. When I took up the cello a few years ago, I found it helpful to post something about each lesson. And I have to say, a ukelele is much more portable than a cello. You’ve chosen well.
thanks, ashley! i purposely went small on instruments (i have short fingers) and am glad i did. posting online is really working out for me, esp since johnny does the posting….