Monday, October 6th, 2008...1:25 pm
male insight
Or maybe this is just insight into the male.
The hubs and I were watching The Amazing Race (which I’ve decided I have NO interest in ever competing in), and one team consisted of a couple that had been dating for four years and the woman wanted to get married.
Since I am so wise now and think much is so obvious in the dating world (now that I’m OUT of it), I wondered a) why the woman would keep hoping for so long by dating this guy, assuming she wanted to get married all along, and b) why the guy would string her along, knowing she wanted marriage.
Since the hubs was right there in the room, I asked him, “Would a guy consider a certain woman is okay for dating, but know they would never want to marry her, and keep dating her anyway? Like the idea of her short term is doable, but not long term.” Pun intended.
To which the hubs simply said, “No. You just wouldn’t think about it. And then time would pass.”
Time, like four years??
And if you know the hubs, you know he knows from whence he speaks. Not to say he did that to me. But he is very capable of not thinking about anything he doesn’t really care to think about. And maybe even a little proud of that quality. God love him.
Single women, are you listening?
While you’re revising, strategizing, and negotiating silently in your head about this Major Issue, he’s actually not thinking about it. At all.
So, women, as Tim Gunn might say, “Use your time wisely, people!”
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4 Comments
October 7th, 2008 at 5:44 am
“Would a guy consider a certain woman is okay for dating, but know they would never want to marry her, and keep dating her anyway? the answer is YES, they do it all the time. Especially the younger they are. Hubs may not recall time under 30. Pushing 50 will do that.
October 7th, 2008 at 12:37 pm
Well, that guy on Amazing Race was not in his 20’s, and neither was the woman, I don’t think. But I think a guy is capable of this at any age, and the woman hanging around and interested in marriage could be at any age, too….
But once you know someone’s intentions/life goals/plans, how do you keep dating them knowing you’re going to disapoint? Or piss off?
October 7th, 2008 at 1:23 pm
Finally someone gets men. Yes, we for the most part don’t think about it. If it’s not sports, sex or in my case cigars, it’s not in our minds. This is why we need women to talk to us and remind us constantly…
October 8th, 2008 at 11:53 am
My best friend and I have talked about trying to get into the Amazing Race. I think it would be fun!
I dated/lived with a guy for close to five years, we never talked about marriage because I KNEW we wouldn’t be a good married couple, but we were a good dating couple. Then we both figured out we couldn’t do it forever and moved on.
Jenns last blog post..I want that! Wednesday
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